If you thought this blog was going to be about healthy food
choices—hi, my name is Ali, and I am a carbivore. Now that that’s out of the
way…
Over the last year or so, I’ve done a lot of
self-discovering. One thing I’ve realized is that I’m a lot more introverted
than I ever realized. And I’ve learned things I need to do—or not do—to respect
who I am. I’ve realized it’s okay to say no to something you really don’t want
to do.
For example, I’ve been invited to a few parties by people I
barely knew—at which the person I barely knew would be the only person I knew
at all. There was a time when I would’ve thought, “I should go. It will be good
for me to stretch myself.” But I realized that’s only a good reason to do
something if there’s a compelling reason to be stretched. So I said no to those
parties, knowing they would exhaust me and I would feel awkward the whole time.
I’ve also had to re-evaluate some of my ministry commitments
in light of what was best for me. I had to back down from some things to pursue
new callings. And even though in many ways the new callings are going to be
harder and more outside of my comfort zone, they’re much better for my
emotional health. I’ve learned I can make choices about how to serve in an
emotionally healthy way.
I’ve had to unfriend or hide people on Facebook in order to
take care of myself. I’ve seen firsthand how much better I feel when I exercise
daily and sleep on a regular schedule. (Though somehow, I manage to make
excuses about the exercise thing…) I’ve learned that speed-reading through the
Bible in a year leaves me empty and dry, but super-slow reading through 8
chapters in a year and really meditating on them makes me sense God’s presence
more and more.
I’m not saying this to advocate making selfish decisions. My
point is simply that it’s important to know who you are and making godly
decisions in light of that. That doesn’t mean that if you hate action movies,
you should always say no to watching them with your significant other, who
loves them. But it might mean that if action movies replay in your head and
fill you with fears, you find ways to cope with that.
And if it’s a decision that really has no bearing on anyone
else, and it’s not a matter of choosing to sin—do whatever you want. Don’t go
to the party. Read the Bible the way that means the most to you.
Because if you don’t take care of yourself, you’ll burn out
pretty soon trying to take care of others.
